N: Guruji Namaskar, teen mahine pehle mere pati ki mritu ho gayi vo sirf 41 saal ke the or apne parivar se prem karte the or prabhu ke saath bhi jude hue the , kabhi unhone kisi ko dukh nahi phanouchaya, mujhe samaj nahi aata aisa kyon hua mein bahut preshan hun,mujhe yahi chinttta rehti he ki abb vo kahan honge, kaise honge, mein unse phir milungee ya nahi, mujhe unke liye is dharti per kya karna chaiye jinse unhe aage koi dukh na mile.Guruji mere swaal bhut ajib se hein lekin me bhut preshan hu aisa kyun hua kripa kar mujhe rah dikyen mera antardwand mera dukh mujhe jeene nahi deta. krpa mera margdarshan kare. JGD
Swami Ram Swarup: Mera tumhe ashirwad, beti. Aapke pati ki mrityu ka samachar sunkar dukh hua, Ishwar aapko shanti de. Beti dukh sukh janam mrityu yeh sab kuchh ishwr ke adheen hai. ved vidya par vichar karien to teen prakar ke karam hote hain.
Three types of Deeds
There are three types of deeds (karmas) – sanchit, prarabhadh and kriyamann. Suppose one soul has to take birth (body). It means he has to face total number of deeds of his all previous lives and these deeds are called sanchit karmas but sanchit deeds are huge/unlimited and cannot be faced in one life. So the karmas which can be faced in one life are called prarabhadh (luck-destiny). So God has not made our luck at His own but Almighty God has considered the deeds which we have already done.
Yajurveda mantra 7/48 clarifies that human being is free to do any deed good or bad but God only awards the result. Now the balance deeds from sanchit deeds will be counted in the next life. Now the deeds which we do in our day today present life are called kriyamann.
If we do pious deeds according to Vedas, shastras and holy books and based on pious preaches of Rishi, Muni/learned saints then our all sanchit deeds are burnt and we can get salvation. Human beings are free in the matter of doing deeds good or bad. But result will be awarded by God. So we must worship and do pious deeds under guidance of a learned Guru. One should go always ahead for hard working, pious deeds, worship to make future bright himself. One should always work hard towards a right path.
Worship does not mean that we are free to discharge only our family duties, education, etc., but rather it is a sin. We have to get progress in both waysimultaneously i.e., spiritualism and worldly progress i.e., science, education, duties towards family etc. God creates the universe according to His eternal law framed in Vedas which are always unchangeable and unchallengeable. So we have to follow the law of God always to get long happy life.
Janam or mrityu ka rehasya gehan gambhir hai or yeh sab kuch Ishwar ke haath mein hai. Isliye hamien yeh janna jaroori hai ki manushya jub janam leta hai to uska jeevan pichhle janmon ke kiye huye karmon par aadharit hota hai jise hum kismet kahate hain. Bjav yah hai pichhle janmon ke kiye shubh or ashubh karmon ka fal hamein is janam mein Ishwar deta hai, jisme hamare janam aur mrityu kee tareekh, shubh karmon ka phal sukh, ashubh karmon ka phal dukh bhi pehle se hee nischit kiya hua hota hai.
Beti itna samjhane kee koshish karein ki Rigved mantra 10/135/1,2 hamein yeh shiksha deta hai ki manushya yahaan sansaar mein apne peechley shubh or ashubh karmon ka phal bhogne aaya hai. Jab shubh karma bhogta hai toh sukh milta hai or jab ashubh karma bhogta hai toh dukh milta hai or is janam mein hum jo shubh or ashubh karma karengey woh hum agle janam mein bhogengey.
Han! Ishwar kee vedic bhakti hamein deergaayu pradaan kartee hai. Iss adhaar par aapke pati ke is janam ke karma toh agle hee janam mein bhoge jayengey.
Manushya ka iss janam mein jo sambandh hai woh kewal mrityu tak hai. Iske baad manushya apne shubh, ashubh karmon ke aadhar par manushya ya pasu-pakshi kee yoni mein agla janam leta hai or apne kiye karmon ko bhogta hai.
Aap unke liye kewal ved mantron se Yajyen kar sakti ho or kuchh nahi. Hum sab Ishwar ke banaye niyamon ka aadar karein or jo kuchh Ishwar ne kiya usko sweekar karke hridaye mein shanti rakhein.
Maine recently mrityu par ek pustak leekhi hai. Mein chahunga ki aap woh padhein or woh aapko mann kee shanti degi. Yadi aap padhna chahein toh aap apna postal address bhej dein. Yahan ved mandir se woh kitaab aapko free bhej dee jayegee.
P: I have got married in 2009 still then I am having problems with my husband. He didn’t even love me and care me he left me for so many years alone we both filed a mutual divorce but I am not willing to take divorce so I disagree to take. So by judge’s compromise us and tell us to stay together. From feb 2014 we both started living together. But then he didn’t like me he quarells and beat me for small issues. We stayed for 4 months together. Now I am pregnant sir my husband filed divorce case against me. What should i do with my baby? I am jobless. How can I stop my husband about divorce? He is not even talking to me. He doesn’t love me and even my baby also. Will he come back again or will get divorced? Sir please you have to help me and save me please. Thanks!
Swami Ram Swarup: It is sad that your family problem have reached to the extent that divorce matter has to be considered. You see, divorce is not feasible and fruitful to you. So, you must try your level best to please your husband and other family members to avoid the divorce.
To stop the ravages of hatred, you will have to forget the bad happening which took place in the past and will have to shower your love to each member of your family, otherwise the life will be ruined or would take a long time in resetting, etc. Learned judge has given you a golden chance to show your good qualities and faithfulness before your husband to please him.
I would like to mention here that it is a personally family problem and therefore will be solved by you. You may seek help also from your parents/ relatives and as well as in-laws to interfere and to settle the matter. My blessings are with you. May God help you.