Harsh: Pranaam swamiji. I have firm belief in ancient vedic system and Ramayan and in Krishna..but swamiji at this age my faith shaterred and now I am like a hollow body. Because on internet and in newspapers I found many articles that where promoting premarital sex and adultery and claiming that sex has nothing to do with marriage and saying vedas permit it. What I was taught by my parents that its a sacred relation. Swamji please clear my doubts and helpme to regain my faith.
Q1- IS PRE MARITAL RELATION ALLOWED BY VEDAS?
Q2- IS PROMISCUITY ALLOWED BY VEDAS?
Q3- IS ADULTERY ALLOWED BY VEDAS?
Q4-IS POLYGAMY ALLOWED BY VEDAS?
Q5- IS DIVORCE PERMITTED ? IF YES CAN THE PERSON REMARRY?
Q6- ON WHAT GROUNDS DIVORCE IS PERMITTED?
Q7- SWAMIJII IS IT RIGHT TO ABONDON WIFE IF SHE IS BARREN?
Q8-SWAMIJI IS IT RIGHT TO ABONDON HUSBAND IF HE IS IMPOTENT AND INDULGE IN ADULTERY?
Q9-WHAT SHOULD ONE DO IF WIFE IS BARREN OR IF HUSBAND IS IMPOTENT?
Q10-SWAMIJI INSATYA PRAKASH I READ THAT IF WIFE IS PREGNANT HIS HUSBAND IS ALLOWED TO CONTACT NIYOG .WHICH I FOUND VERY CRUEL.IF ALREADY YOUR WIFE IS PREGNANT WHAT IS THEN PURPOSE OFNIYOG?
Q11–SWAMIJI WHO IS IMPOTENT? I MEAN IF A PERSON IS ABLE TO PRODUCE KIDS BUT NOT ABLE TO SATISFY HIS WIFE CARNAL DESIRE IS HE IMPOTENT OR IS IT JUST WIFE’S LUST.AND VICE VERSA..
Q12–SWAMIJI SUPPOSEAFETR MARRIAGE COUPLE IS BLESSED WITH CHILDRENBUT LATER ONEOF PARTNER’S SEXUAL EFFICIENCY DEGRADES (WHICH IS SURE WITH GROWING AGE) IS IT RIGHTTHENFOR THE OTHER PARTNER TO INDULGE IN ADULTERY OR DIVORCE ? ACCORDING TOVEDAS
Q 13- WHAT IS PURPOSE OF NIYOG? WHAT ARE ITS BOUNDARIES AND HOW MANY TIMES IT CAN BE DONE? IN SATYA PRAKASH I READ 11 TIMES WHICH I FOUND QUITE WIERD.. WHAT ACTUALLY DOES VEDAS SAY ABOUT IT, WHAT IS PROCEDURE AND WITH WHOM IT CAN BE PERFORMED AND WHAT ARE THE VOWS?
KOIGUSTAAKHIK LIYE MAAFI SWAMIJIMUJH BOAHT SHARAM AA RAHIHAI AISE SAWAAL KARTE HUE ..PAR YEH AAJ KAL KI SACCHAI
HAI PEOPLE ARE HAVING CASUAL SEX..SEX OUTSIDE MARRIAGE AND MARRIGES ARE NO MORE PERMANENT AND LAST TILL SEXUAL POWER IS SUSTAINED?? WHAT VEDAS SAYABOUT IT.
PLZ DO REPLY SWAMIJII I M VERY DEPRESSED
Swami Ram Swarup: My blessings to you. Our ancient Vedic culture relates to first knowledge of four Vedas which emanates directly from God in the beginning of every creation.
I paste my article below:-
God has made universe and blessed us with human body to do pious deeds to attain salvation only. He has not made any heaven or hell. All have to face the result of their deeds, good or bad here only, even by taking rebirth. (Rigved mantras 10/135/1,2 refer)
God has not only made universe but has also given knowledge of four Vedas where answers to your and everyone’s questions have been given. There are four Vedas:
1. Rig Veda – gives knowledge of science, matter of the universe like sun, moon, air, body etc., etc.
2. Yajurved – gives knowledge of all the deeds and duties to be performed by men, women, students, leaders, king, agriculturist etc., etc., etc.
3. Samved – gives knowledge how to worship God who gives peace and long happy life etc. In this way, details of Yoga philosophy, qualities, supreme deeds and nature of the God are also given.
4. Atharvaved – gives details of God, medical science and details of medicine etc.
Actually in four Vedas there is unlimited knowledge. Yajurved mantra 40/8 says that God is everywhere, is Almighty, formless, devoid of nervous system, purest, away from sins and does not have to face any result of any karmas (deeds), knows every soul, knows what is in everyone’s mind, no body has made God, but God creates universe, has given the eternal knowledge of four Vedas and always gives the said knowledge at the beginning of every universe to know the science and deeds to all concern. Similarly four Vedas say about God that God is an omnipresent, omniscient, formless, beyond imagination and beyond calculation. Actually God has unlimited qualities. There is only one God who creates, nurses, destroys the universe and recreates. Atharvaved mantra 4/1/1 also says that God gives the knowledge of Vedas at the beginning of the earth to four Rishis of non-sexual creation. And thereafter only public listens Vedas through Rishis- Munis as yet and become learned. Rig-Veda gives knowledge of Almighty, Yajurved gives knowledge of karmas (deeds), Samved tells about worship-Yoga philosophy and Atharvaved about medicines and God. Actually all Vedas commonly says about God also, so this is about Vedas in short. But the knowledge of Vedas is endless.
It is a fundamental law that knowledge is always given by somebody. Otherwise knowledge can’t be gained at any cost. If a new born baby is nursed well in a dense jungle and is not educated then he will not be able to gain any knowledge even if he becomes young or old. So we have to think about the origin of the knowledge prevalent in the world today. In this connection the Vedas themselves say that God gives this knowledge to four Rishis. As said by Rishi Patanjali in Yog shastra sutra 1/26, God is the first Guru of the four Rishis. Yajurved mantra 31/7 also refers. This is all in short about Vedas.
The Vedas are not a book, rather it is a knowledge originated in the heart of Rishis. At the time of beginning of the earth those Rishis preached Vedas by mouth and all others remembered the same orally. At that time there was no pen, pencil, paper, etc. This process of studying Vedas orally remained till Mahabharata time. Muni Vyas too remembered Vedas traditionally by heart. Then Muni Vyas for the first time wrote the Vedas on Bhoj patra about 5300 years ago. In 16th century when printing press came into existence then the Vedas were printed. Still Vedas are not those which have been printed but those which are preached by mouth by an Acharya/yogi and the printed Vedas are called Sanhita.
Now if somebody worships a statue etc., then it is their own creation please but Vedas deny. According to Vedas the best worship of the God is Yajyen for which all Vedas are self-proof. Yajurved mantra 31/16 says that the learned persons worship God by Yajyen.
So many people have asked me that most of the scholars/preachers of different religion state that their religion incorporates all matters of the world including science. What about Vedas? I wrote so many Ved Mantras describing science matters therein. For example, Yajurved Mantra 3/6 states
“Ayam Gauhu Swaha Pitram Puraha Prayan Mataram Prishnihi
This earth revolves around the Sun in the space and it also rotates on its own axis. Vedas are eternal like God because Vedas emanate from God. Now, according to Vedas, this present creation is about 1 Arab, 96 crores, 8 lakh 53,111 years old. So are theVedas but as said in Rigved Mantra 10/191/3 the present creation is same as was the previous one and this process of creation is eternal. So are the Vedas which emanate from eternal God. This all concludes that Vedas are the oldest in this creation also and no other book of science, maths or pertaining to spiritualism is written before Vedas.
Like the above example of rotation and revolution of earth, the significance of whole present science is mentioned in Vedas. We can see that whatever is happening in the universe, is all according to the Vedas. For example, occurrence of six seasons, actions of Sun, moon, process of death, birth, worship, yoga philosophy, atomic energy, agriculture, animal husbandry, knowledge of politics, administration, architecture, solar energy, knowledge of home appliances like mixer, grinder, business rules, about men, women, children, marriage, Brahmacharya, education, clothes etc., etc., i.e., knowledge right from a straw to Brahma is all in Vedas. God is Almighty and has unlimited powers. So through His power He is able to originate the knowledge of Vedas in the heart of four Rishis without pencil, paper, help of mouth or any other worldly assistance.
We, i.e., the whole world depends on Almighty God but God is forever independent. That is why, He is God. We are the souls who reside in human bodies. We need assistance of senses, perceptions, mind and body to do deeds but not God.
Nowadays, so many saints are writing books. What is the background to write their books? Background is clear that they have first studied or listened the preach from their Gurus, keeping aside the matter of truth or falsehood. And after studying or listening the same, they became able to write the books. So this is also fundamental law, based on which, the ancient Rishis first listened Vedas and when they became learned then only they wrote the Vedic books like Valmiki Ramayana, six shastras, Mahabharat (Bhagwad Geeta), Upanishads, etc., etc. So, first the knowledge of Vedas is initiated in the universe and afterwards other books come into existence.
Somebody may say that human beings have knowledge by their nature to create anything like books etc., but we see that the newly born baby who is nursed in a jungle, in the absence of knowledge of a learned person, he becomes incapable to do anything. Thus, he can’t be M.A, M.Sc, doctor etc. So there are two types of the words and meanings. First, eternal which are from Almighty God and second, natural made by human beings. Eternal word meanings are always from Vedas i.e., from God. After listening/studying Vedas, human beings become learned and then too based on their own natural knowledge, they make their own words and meanings, literature etc. But it is very much clear that in the absence of knowledge of Vedas, no one can become learned. Nowadays, also people live in dense jungle and do not lead a civilized life because they are not learned as cited above. Vedas are not sects because they emanate direct from God and God is one for all human beings. God creates sun, moon, air, water, food etc., which are meant for the best use of all human beings for their long, happy life, so are the Vedas.
So all human beings must accept Vedas as an eternal knowledge from God, for the benefit of whole creation.
Now, we must learn that until knowledge is given by somebody, it can’t be gained by other person. So, God first gives the Vedic knowledge as quoted above and thereafter Rishi-muni, who study the Vedas, they became learned and based on the Vedic knowledge, they wrote shastras, upnishads , Valmiki Ramayan, Mahabharat epic and other ancient Vedic culture. According to Vedas and ancient Vedic culture, Sri Krishna Maharaj did not take avtar and therefore he was not God. He was respect worthy Yogehswar.
As per the Vedas and Vedic culture, Brahmacharya is the base of human life and before marriage, premarital sex and adultery etc., is a heinous sin and result thereof is awarded by God Himself in the shape of great sorrows. So, those who are writing or saying that premarital sex and adultery is permitted by Vedas are those, who never study Vedas and do not know ABC about Vedas. Yajurved straightaway states that before marriage the opposite sex should not give their heart to each other, Atharvaved states girl who maintains brahmacharya, she gets learned husband and so is in case of boy, then what to say more about this matter.
1) No, please.
2) No, please
3) No, please.
4) No, please
5) Yes, in case of sin by any spouse and remarriage if the spouse is interested, is permitted.
6) In case of sin like adultery, cheating, fraud, theft, intolerable nuisance/fighting, unnecessary expenditure.
7) Abandonment is not necessary but person, in case of wife, the wife can achieve child from other woman/man respectively. However, I would advise here that this task is not easy nowadays. But Vedas permit.
8) As above.
9) As above.
10) I think, Satyarth Prakash does not allow a man to get child from other lady in case his own wife is pregnant. However, matter of niyog is mentioned there, which is not applicable in all circumstances and in my personal view the present time is not suitable to apply niyog because everybody is not learned of Vedas and has no control on senses. So, being sexual matter only, niyog is not suitable nowadays.
11) Your question does not tally with the Vedic culture, please. In Vedas, only sexual activities are not promoted but even considered a sin. Now, relation between wife and husband is only to get child so no question of sexual satisfaction etc., arises. So, those who consider the said matter as sexual satisfaction, they are against the vedic knowledge and are therefore considered sinners.
12) No, please. I’ve explained this matter above, Vedas preach to maintain brahmacharya to live long.
13) One of the answer on niyog
Niyog jawaan vidhwa aurat aur aisee aurat jiska pati napunsak hai, uspar lagoo hota hai; agar weh aurat chahey tub weh aurat doosrey admi se santaan prapt kartee hai. Aur us santaan ko us aurat ke shadi- shuda pati ka naam diya jaata hai arthat weh hee pita hota hai. Jaise kee pancho Pandavon ka janam bhi niyog dwara hua tha parantu main niyog ke aaj ke zamane mein laagu karne ke khilaf hoon kyunki pehle niyog vedon ke gyata aur grihasth ashram mein bhi brahamcharya ko dharann karne walon nein hee istmaal kiya tha. Kyunki un mein ved-vidya ke abhyaas ke karann vishaye vikaarkee bhavna nahin thee aur niyog karne wale kabhi sapne mein bhi nahin soch sakte thei kee usnein santaan utpann kee.aaj ved-vidya mein aye kami ke karann prayaha kisi ko brahamcharya dharann karne ka gyan nahin hai isliye aaj niyog ka istemaal kiya jaayega to vishaye-vikaar kee bhavna phailtee jayegee aur logon kee insult bhi hogee. Isliye mera vichar hai ki aaj niyog ka istemaal kabhi bhi nahin karna chahiye.
Those who are having casual sex etc., they are thus against the Vedas because study of Vedas reveals that Vedas do not permit it. Mimansa Shastra state that the task /deed which is done as per the inspiration of Vedas, that task/deed is considered pious deed and deeds which are against Vedas, those deeds are impious deeds. So, the Vedas established a principle that those who carry out their duties and do deeds according to Vedas, they are doing pious deeds and those who are against the Vedas, they are doing sins. So, the above case, indulges in sins and God Himself gives the punishment to them.
My heartiest blessings to you, my son.