Rishi: Swamiji Charan sparash, Ishwar ki krpa se mere yahan beti hui hai. krpa karke uska naam bata de..aur kaun kaun se sankaar hote hain vedon ke anusaar janam ke baad.. uski mallish ke liye koi oil bhi bata dijiye.. Om Shanti.
Swami Ram Swarup: My blessings to you and my heartiest blessings to your loving daughter. You may choose any Vedic name from following:-
1. Sumedha – achchi buddhi wali.
2. Kavya – Prasann chitta rehney wali.
3. Rishika – ved mantron ka gyan rakhne wali.
4. Manisha – ved mantron aur vidya ka manan karne wali.
5. Jyoti- divine light.
6. Jaya- The winner.
7. Jaanati- one who has good understanding.
8. Jigeesha- Winner.
9. Jeevdhanya- who takes care of children.
10. Juhi- A flower with sweet fragrance.
As regards, I paste my article below:-
SIXTEEN SANSKARS AS PER VEDAS
Soul residing within body is an eternal, immortal, indestructible matter. It is the body which perishes, is subjected to death and decay and finally burnt in the flames of pyre. But soul abandons the body on death and enters another body according to previous lives’ deeds (karmas). Atharvaveda mantra 7/67/1 and 5/1/2 say about rebirth. The mantras say that if a person does pious deeds according to Vedas, shastras and holy books, then he gets human life again with all happiness to continue worship. Geeta shloka 13/8 also enumerates birth-death, old- age, disease as sources of sorrow. Yog shastra sutra 2/9 also states death to be the biggest cause of sufferings and distress. However, with the grace of God, man has taken birth to mitigate and finally remove all sufferings and distress.
There is no doubt that Vedas are the most ancient holy texts on the earth in which God Himself has explained the secrets of all universal matters, both worldly and spiritual, such as responsibility – actions/ deeds, science, worship etc., to man. Since the beginning of earth Aryans have been knowing the date of process of creation of universe and this fact has even been hinted in Yajurveda mantra 15/65. Accordingly, the age of present earth dates back to approximately 1 arab 96 crores 8 lakh 53 thousand one hundred and eleven years.
At the beginning of each creation, the knowledge of 4 Vedas emanates from God and is originated in the heart of four Rishis. (Rigveda mantra 10/109/1 and 10/181/1 refer). This is the reason that God has been called as first Guru of four Rishis (as per Yog shastra sutra 1/26) and after that Rishis and Munis give the knowledge of Vedas to human beings traditionally. For that matter Vedas knowledge is eternal which emanates directly from God and it is most important for human beings to do deep study of Vedas. Just as father does everything which is in the best interest of his children, similarly God is father to whole world and He does the best for the welfare of mankind selflessly by creating universe and providing all material to live upon. In fact it is for the welfare of mankind that God has given the eternal knowledge of four Vedas to whole mankind. Moreover, God has given the knowledge of 16 sanskars in Vedas to remove innumerable sufferings/sorrows of humans in the form of old age, diseases, birth death and so on.
Since these sanskars have been elaborated in Vedas, therefore study of Vedas is imperative to know about these sanskars. By sanskar it is meant that just as a child erases any incorrect thing written with pencil and then writes correct word on the same rubbed place similarly on performing sanskars any bad deed causing sorrows etc., imprinted on chitta gets erased and pious, beneficial sanskars get imprinted on chitta which leads to destruction of all bad karmas and consequently soul escapes from facing the outcome of bad karmas i.e. sorrows.
In fact, the soul enjoys happiness which is the result of pious good karmas. Sanskar ceremony is performed in Yajyen only thus Yajyen and Acharya possessing eternal knowledge of Vedas are indispensable for performing sanskars. This statement can be supported by a historical example that all sanskars of Sri Ram were performed by Guru Vasishth and of Sri Krishna by Rishi Sandeepan and other rishis and so is the case of all ancient public. It is through the performance of these sanskars that the soul conquers above quoted problems like birth-death, old age, disease etc. While performing each sanskar, divine blessings are showered by both, God and Acharya/learned possessing knowledge of Vedas on one to all participating in ceremony i.e., children, young and elderly people for a long, happy life etc. However due to lack of knowledge of Vedas and thus under the influence of most of the saints of present times, who are against the Vedas, the public has deviated from true path and abandoned performance of these sanskars, study and listening of Vedas and practice of ashtang yoga and consequently this ignorance has put a question mark over the bright future of people all over the world which was made bright by performing the sanskars. Yajyen is indispensable for the performance of each of the 16 sanskars which may be elaborated as under –
1. Garbhadhan Sanskar –
Each person attains birth according to his/her previous lives’ deeds and accordingly suffers sorrows or enjoys happiness. Vedas are accepted by all ancient rishis as self -proof i.e., if the matter is mentioned in Vedas, that all is true and needs no other proof therefore Vedas prove the fact that if sanskars are done at right time, this pious act liquidates the sorrows which have to be suffered based on the previous birth’s deeds and hence sanskars lead to building of a new phase of life, devoid of sorrows. On the same lines, garbhadhan sanskar brightens the future of the child who is to take birth. For example, during this sanskar, there is a prayer in the shape of mantras addressed to God that Oh! God all the sins done by me till date may kindly be liquidated. I repent for all the sins done by me till date. In the same manner there are so many prayers which are the best and most helpful to remove the ill effect of sins from the lives of the persons who have committed sins. No doubt, that mere prayer will not finish all the sins but performing Yajyen in the sanskar in the rightist way and in the presence of Acharya who knows Vedas, minimizes sins (about 810) as per Samveda mantra 495 and regular Yajyen, listening to Vedas preach and practice of yoga philosophy as per Vedas sure obliterates all the sins and the aspirant gets salvation but if we do not perform any sanskar and thus we are lacking the knowledge of Vedas, then no doubt our future is dark.
In this sanskar, the Acharya (learned guru of Vedas), husband – wife, parents, followers of learned guru along with as many people having faith in God and Vedas, sit in yajshala to offer aahutis in pious fire of Yajyen. All such prayers are showered with pious and beneficial result of such offerings. In this connection Samveda mantra 104 says that he who offers aahuti in vedi (burning fire in havan kund) he is saved from illusion and enemies etc. All this puts excellent effect on the child who is to take birth. Valmiki Ramayana and Tulsikrit Ramayana prove the fact that king Dashrath got garbhadhan sanskar done of his wives with the blessings of Shringi Rishi and was blessed with four sons who were great warriors, gentle, God fearing, wielding good character and with other several good qualities and were known as gems of society.
2. Punsvan Sanskar –
This sanskar is performed after garbhadhan sanskar when a woman becomes pregnant. In this sanskar offerings are made in pious fire of Yajyen and is performed in second or third month to ensure the stability of pregnancy.
3. Seemantonnayan Sanskar –
It is performed in fourth, sixth or eighth month of pregnancy. In this sanskar offerings of khichdi i.e., a dish prepared by boiling of rice and dal together are also added along with other offerings of ghee and samagri.
4. Jaatkarma Sanskar –
It is performed on the same day when the child takes birth accompanied by offerings to the holy fire. The child is to take ghee and honey in optimum quantity i.e., in the ratio 1:4. “OM” is written on the tongue of newly born child either with thin neem stem or thin stick of gold.
5. Naamkarann Sanskar –
This sanskar is performed after 101 days counted from the day on which the child takes birth or in the second year. In this sanskar all the family members along with learned Acharya and other devotees perform Yajyen and together choose a pious name for the child from Vedas, attributing all good sanskars on the child, in the Yajyen.
6. Nishkramann Sanskar –
This sanskar is performed after one and a half months or four months. In this child is exposed to fresh, pure air outside the house. Mother of the child for the first time comes out of the house with the baby.
7. Annaprashan Sanskar –
This sanskar is performed after 6 months from the day child takes birth. After this pious sanskar child is offered with solid food comprising khichdi etc. and prior to this sanskar child is only fed on milk because the intestines of the child are weak and are not capable of digesting any food other than milk before 6 months of age.
8. Choodakarm Sanskar (Mundan Ceremony) –
In this sanskar, all hair on the head of the child, that have been there since he was nourished in mother’s womb are removed by barber while performing holy Yajyen. These hair are removed either in the first year of birth or in the third year. Round about two and a half years of age, child has about 20 teeth in his mouth. Due to growth of teeth, child suffers heaviness and heat in his head, the gums are swollen and he may also suffer loose motions. Owing to all this, child displays irritated nature. Thus to overcome all these problems, his hair are removed. Moreover it is essential to remove the hair from child’s head which he holds since the time he was nurtured in his mother’s womb. The hairs are removed while chanting Ved mantras and the whole ceremony is conducted while performing Yajyen.
9. Karnnavedh Sanskar –
It implies piercing the ear–lobe. This sanskar is done in third or fifth year of age. As in the case of previous sanskars this is also done in Yajyen ceremony. Mantras bless the child with long life, happiness and wealth. This sanskar leads to controlling of disease of hernia as well.
10. Upnayan Sanskar –
In this sanskar, male/female child is made to wear sacred thread (janeyu/ yajyopaveet). This sanskar is done in 6-8 years of age and the child is given deeksha of Gayatri mantra/guru mantra and henceforth child is called dwij (one who has been given second birth by the Acharya). The word dwij implies second. First birth is given to child by parents but as stated above, second birth is assumed to be given to the child by his Acharya while giving deeksha, who upholds the status of spiritual father. After performing the sanskar, the child goes to school to attain education. In ancient times, the child went to gurukul after performing this sanskar. Yajopaveet has 3 threads which educate the child to control rajo, tamo, sato gunn of the prakriti. The child is educated by the acharya to effectively control these three gunnas of prakriti which in turn lead to effective control over senses, perceptions and mind, anger, pride, laziness, etc.
11. Vedarambh Sanskar –
This sanskar is more or less like upnayan sanskar and may be performed along with upnayan sanskar. After the performance of Yajyen, complete in all respects, male/female child remain under the control and care of learned Acharya who knows Vedas and has full control on 5 senses, 5 organs and mind. Then the Acharya starts giving preach of 4 Vedas. This preach includes academic education, moral duties to inspire pious deeds, to discharge duties to serve parents, society, all humans and the nation including spiritualism.
12. Samavarttan Sanskar –
When male/female child, after strictly following the rules of brahamcharya, complete their education at higher levels, then this sanskar is performed. It may be compared to the present times CONVOCATION ceremony after passing out from university etc.
13. Vivah Sanskar –
Marriage is also a turning point of the life. So it has also not to be started without getting blessings of almighty GOD. This blessing according to eternal philosophy of Vedas is only obtained while performing a holy Yajyen with Ved mantras. Thus this pious Yajyen gives sanskar to the bride and bridegroom, which also helps the couple to obtain a long, happy family life. There must not be any child marriage. The minimum age of the marriage of a boy must be 25 years and that of girl 18 years. There are 8 types of marriages:–
Method of Mandap and Marriage –
Marriage period can be divided into three parts child marriage, adolescent marriage and marriage at mature age. Child marriage which relates to marriage at the age earlier to the age of adolescence should never be performed.
Hindu religion is based on eternal philosophy of Vedas and this philosophy is well briefed in six shastras and Manusmriti etc., written by rishis who were philosophers of Vedas, did practice of ashtang yoga, realized God and Ved mantras within their heart. Those ancient rishis were like Manu, Atri, Kambadh, Matang, Patanjali, Vasishth, Vyas Muni, and dignitaries like Shri Ram, Shri Krishna, Mata Sita, brahmacharinni Gargi who was Guru of king Janak and so many other ancient rishis and Raj rishis. In between there came a time, i.e., about 5000 years ago and thereafter people started following smritis and shastras and now a days India mostly depends on the present saints and present holy books written between 3000 years time. So there are three types of periods:
eternal– based on Vedas, middle period– based on smritis and shastras/karam kand and present period– which we are observing, whatsoever is going on, i.e., mostly against the Vedas and smritis.
However, according to the eternal philosophy of Vedas, child marriage is not permitted. The age of marriage of boy is plus 25, 33 and 44 years up to which one has to be perfect in Brahmacharya and for girls the age is above 18 years. In middle period and present period, the custom of child marriage against Vedas started. Reason may be any, which has created a huge loss to humanity. In Manusmriti shloka 3/21, eight types of marriages have been stated, but of eight last two are prohibited:
1. Brahma Vivah (marriage) — It is self decided marriage by girl. In this girl is married while performing holy yajyen with the best learned boy searched by parents or herself and no dowry.
2. Dev Vivah — in this marriage holy yajyen is performed and to perform the yajyen, number of learned boys are also invited. And in this marriage some good articles, clothes etc., are donated whereas in above stated Brahma marriage nothing is donated.
3. Aarsh Vivah — in this marriage the father of bridegroom takes nothing and marriage is performed in holy yajyen.
4. Prajapatya Vivah — in a holy yajyen, learned person and parents do marriage and advice both (boy and the girl) to continue their family life religiously. In this marriage all the married learned persons give blessings to newly married couple.
5. Asur Vivah — while performing holy yajyen marriage is performed and the parents of girl give some dowry to bridegroom. It is not blessed by learned persons due to the involvement of dowry system, etc.
6. Gandharv Vivah — where there is no Yajyen and presence of any other person except girl and the boy. Both agreed to marry and continue family life.
7. Rakshas Vivah — when a girl is forcefully taken and marriage is done, it is also not admitted by learned persons and is not religious.
8. Paishach Vivah — in a lonely place if a girl is met while sleeping or she is mad etc., and someone outrages her modesty. It is also not admitted by learned persons and is not religious.
These marriages are according to Manusmriti shlok 3/21.
Marriage is a religious function. In this religious function, the holy yajyen with Ved mantras is performed. The Ved mantras are also recited concerning the future family life of couple which makes pious effects on both hearts. It is performed by a learned person who knows Vedas. The following custom is performed. The welcome of whole barat and specially of bridegroom in mandap. The best seat is offered to bridegroom by bride, water is given to wash the hands, mouth and feet and to do achmann, system of donation of cow. Bridegroom also gives heartily respect to the bride. The yajyen in full respect is performed. Pannigrahnn custom is performed when bridegroom takes hand of bride, while reciting Ved mantras.
In Ved mantras, there are promises to be fulfilled like offering whole life by both to each other while doing pious deeds according to Vedas. Then both go around the holy fire of yajyen along with which holy Ved mantras are recited and offering of ghee and havan samagri is continued in the fire. Then the custom of Shila arohann is done which implies that bride should be firm like a stone in the matter of discharging of her moral duties towards family etc. Then the custom of Phere is done. Then Saptpadi i.e., to go together up to seven steps, within the voice of Ved mantras wherein good advices are given. Then other customs are done. Mandap is made in both the houses i.e., in the house of bride and bridegroom too. Then barat i.e., bridegroom and their relatives, friends etc., reaches the house of parents of bride. The mandap, is already made in the house of bride. It is mostly made of bamboos or sticks etc., duly decorated. In the middle of the mandap, a Yajyen kund is placed in which pious fire is generated wherein Yajyen is done offering aahuti of ghee and havan samagri etc.
Four small plates, four small bowls and one bowl of ghee, four small spoons, one big spoon, about one kg pure ghee, the dry twigs of mango tree, four packets of havan samagri, match box, camphor, one hand fan, a big bowl full of water, Yajopaveet (sacred thread) turmeric powder, wheat flour, roli (a powder prepared from a mixture of turmeric and lime used to decorate the havan kund and mandap). Mandap comprises of four seats (asans) on ground to be occupied by purohit and others who will perform the marriage function, two wooden seats to be occupied by bride and bridegroom, flower garlands, sweets and boiled rice are already kept. The said articles are used in the decoration of mandap and to perform the holy Yajyen and to perform the marriage function, this is all in short please.
During the Vedic period there was no child marriage. Due to the lack of knowledge of Vedas, the child marriage started. The marriage is a religious function and is performed while doing holy Yajyen with Ved mantras. When barat reaches the residence of bride’s parents, the bride gives pious seat to the bridegroom, water to wash the feet, hands, mouth. Water is given for three ACHMAN (intake of water with Ved mantras). In optimum ratio, curd, honey, and ghee (3:1:1) is served to the bridegroom. Cow is donated by the bride’s parents. Pitcher full of fresh water is placed, at the place where holy Yajyen is performed for the marriage.
PANIGRAHAN means bridegroom takes the hand of bride and the Ved mantras are recited. AGNIPARIKRAMA i.e. the couple moves around the burning fire of havan kund in which the AAHUTIS (offerings) are given by Ved mantras. SHILA AROHAN i.e. one step is put by bride on the hardest stone which means she is educated that she has to carry on the family life with firm mind like a stone. LAJA-HOM means walking around the pious fire. SAPTAPADI – in this process, the couple slowly -slowly takes 7 steps together with Ved mantras. Then couple sees shining sun together. Then the bridegroom touches the heart of the bride. Then the couple sees the DHRUV and ARUNDHATI stars together. This pious marriage is performed as stated above, while performing a long holy Yajyen while reciting Ved mantras.
14. Vanprasth Sanskar –
After discharging all moral duties in married life between 25 and 50 years of age, Vedas say to enter Vanprasth ashram. It means one should go towards jungle (lonely place) for deep study of Vedas and practice of ashtang yoga. Vanprasth ashram teaches that one should now keep oneself separate from family life, to devote full life time to worship GOD according to Vedas’ philosophy. At this pious occasion a great holy Yajyen from ved mantras is performed in the presence of society.
15. Sanyas Sanskar –
Sanyas is the last stage of life. Sanyas is attained by a complete ascetic. A sanyasi is to serve whole of the society, sanyas does not mean that he is sitting idle. He is not meant only to say that he has left the world. Actually sanyasi leaves his married life but he is to look after the whole family of the world. Sanyas is taken either at the age of 75 or at any age when he realizes himself a firm ascetic. In sanyas complete Vedic knowledge and asceticism is the base because he has to spread the true knowledge in the society. A Yajyen is performed in presence of the society and thus the sanyas is given. It is very lengthy procedure and therefore cannot be mentioned here.
16. Antyeshti Sanskar –
Antyeshti is also a pious sanskar. When soul goes out from the body and body thus becomes dead then cremation is called antyeshti sanskar. This is also done while offering aahutis, in burning pyre (chitta), of Ved mantras mentioned in 39th chapter of Yajurveda.
Uski mallish aap Olive Oil (jaitooon ka tel) se karein. Aur bhee achcha hoga , agar aapko bilkul shudh gayein (cow’s) ka ghee mil jaaye to ussey pyari bitya kee mallish karein.
Anonymous: Pranam Swamiji, my father always curses me & humiliates me. I am the only one who has a dark skin in the family and the others have a fair skin. I was treated well till my mother was alive. I don’t have the courage to go back to my country.
Swami Ram Swarup: My blessings to you, my daughter. This is a sin if anybody makes difference between black skin and fair skin. Such people do not know that we are not body but we are soul and we reside within body. The body is separate and we are separate and in the whole of the world, all the people who are there to be counted, it means those are souls who are residing within their bodies. All the learned of the world know that souls are not different from each other in any case. I mean to say, all the souls are minutest, alive, purest, learned and immortal etc. But the bodies are destroyed one day. Suppose, a farmer works in a field and in some circumstances, he is smeared with mud, then it does not mean that he has muddy skin and he is to be hated.
The people who make difference in colours are really pitiable because they will be badly punished by Almighty God, reason being that they hate God made creations. In this connection, I tell you a real story here-
There was a king named Janak. Once he saw a dream that he is very hungry and he is wandering in search of food. He reached a place where a piece of bread was lying on earth. In the dream, the king immediately took the piece of bread and was about to eat it that a kite immediately snatched that bread from him and flew away. The king was so hungry that became unconscious and fell down on earth. Suddenly, he awoke and was surprised to remember the dream. He began to think that he is a king and how could he be a hungry beggar. He began to think whether he was a king or a beggar. He made a royal announcement that anybody who would answer his (King’s) question, that person would be sufficiently awarded/honoured. On a fixed day, several learned persons gathered in a hall, the king was seated on throne and a special chair was placed nearby him for the learned dignitaries who had to give answers. A crowd of the learned of Vedas, shastras was gathered. From the crowd of learned, one by one, learned started sitting on the chair and started giving answer but King Janak was not satisfied with their answer. The crowd of learned along with other officials became silent. After sometime, a person who was disabled by eight parts of body and having totally black skin was seen limping. The person slowly-slowly reached the special chair and as soon as he was seated, the crowd of learned of Vedas etc., started laughing. The crowd actually laughed at his distorted appearance, black skin and ugliness. They thought how this disabled person would be able to answer the king. The above quoted ugly person was adorable Ashtavakra Muniji. He was not only learned of Vedas but he did Tapasya and realized the truth/Almighty God. His eyes had divine glow. After sitting on the special chair, Ashtavakra Muni, in a very pleasant and calm voice, asked the king that who were those persons sitting before him, in a crowd. The king answered, Oh! Muni, these are learned of Vedas and they knew the reality of soul. In return, the Muni replied- that Oh! King, those persons did not know about the soul. They were all cobblers because they very well knew about Ashtavakra’s skin but not his soul which resides within body, since they were cobblers and specialists of skin, that is why, when Muni entered the hall with his disabled body, black skin and ugly face, they immediately judged the same and started laughing, had they been learned of soul, then they could have neglected his disabled body and black skin and would have respected him, knowing that he was knower of soul and Almighty God. On the said reply of Ashtavakra Muni, all the persons sitting there were embarrassed and repented. Thereafter, Muni replied King Janak’s question and said, Oh! Janak, neither you are a king nor a hungry beggar. Your body seems to be King by wearing the dress of King. Actually, you are soul which resides within body.
The king was satisfied and under the guidance of Ashtavakra Muni, he got the eternal knowledge. The above real story teaches us not to judge skin but to judge knowledge. So, my daughter, forget all the illusion and never feel depressed/demoralized. My blessings are always with you. I love you, my daughter, and I also love your son. You may try to come to India also. However, I am sorry to listen about the death of your beloved mother.