R: Dear guruji maharaj, Pranaam, I am still not able to control following vices of mine. I fail every time:
1. Anger and in that moment throwing things
2. Talking loudly
I always desire to be like you calm serene and control of self, measured talk. I always tell A you and your holy selfs conduct is role model not me and my husband.
Guruji my resolve always fails. I do not want to waste life in triffles. Where I am faltering please tell me and help me in overcon=ming this situation.
Guruji maharaaj I have send my friend havan kund and send it across to Kochi, She was not getting it here.
Please tell me when should i visit you early. As vedarambham and yagyams karnabhedhi sanskaar are left. Please guide us. With chransparsh, R.
Swami Ram Swarup: My blessings to you all, my daughter. Beti, in this regard, I first of all paste my article below:-

Controlling anger
It is very difficult to exercise control over anger because it relates to Rajo, Tamo and Satogunn of Prakriti. Secondly, it relates to previous lives’ and present lives’ deeds also. Thirdly, very few want to control anger, sensuality, greed, ego, pride etc., because they usually do not follow the eternal path of Vedas which enables an aspirant to control the anger.

There is symbolic story in Chchandogya Upanishad that once sense organ of eye, ear, nose, tongue and skin started fighting amongst each other to establish their own supremacy over others. Then eye was asked to fight against Kaam (sensuality), krodh (anger), lobh (greed), ahankar (pride). When eye was about to fight against the above vices, eye was attacked and defeated by the above vices. Similarly all the sense organs i.e., ear, nose, tongue and skin could not overpower the above vices.

At last, Prann (breath) prepared himself to fight and immediately all the vices together attacked the Prann but they were destroyed like a ball of clay which is hit against the mountain and gets shattered. Then, all the sense organs accepted the Prann (breath) as supreme power amongst all. It is symbolic story, the idea of which is that if an aspirant does prannayam under the advice of learned acharya of Vedas and Ashtang Yoga Philosophy, then only the anger etc., are controlled.

I mean to say that one must go ahead with his Vedic worship like name jaap, performance of Yajyen and Yoga philosophy , then one day he will be able to control the anger etc., otherwise, the mere bookish knowledge and listening of pravachan etc., will be of no use. But worship should be continued by every person then only he will be able to reach the above stage.

This difference has also been mentioned by Yogeshwar Sri Krishna Maharaj in Geeta Shloka 2/59, Idea of which is that Oh Arjun! If a person has not realised the God then he would try to forcibly suppress his senses, perceptions and mind but the attachment of the senses, perceptions to vices like anger, sensuality etc., does not get finished. So when the suitable atmosphere becomes available, the person gets indulged in those vices. Similar views have been told by respected Rishi Patanjali in his Yog shastra sutra 3/9 that even an aspirant who has studied Vedas and done hard practice of Ashtang yoga but has not realised God then he still attains wonderful stage where his kaam (sensuality), Krodh (anger), Ahankar (pride) etc., and nature of doing sins gets suppressed for some time i.e., becomes dormant, but is not completely destroyed and whenever the situation to commit sins becomes suitable, the tapsvi gets indulged in sins.

As Sri Krishna Maharaj told in above Shloka that nature of doing sins etc., is totally burnt only after realisation of God so the Patanjali Rishi in his sutra 4/29, 4/30, 4/31, 4/32 states that yogi, who attains Dharmamegh Samadhi where he realises God, then only all his klesh i.e., sins/previous lives’ deeds are totally burnt. So, in the absence of the above quoted knowledge of Bhagwad Geeta and Yog shastra but basically in the absence of knowledge of Vedas innocent people get entangled in the false, magnetising field created by false saints, who are against the Vedas and public surrenders her mind, intellect, bodies, wealth to the false saints who are looting the public. Such saints proclaim themselves to be Gods or claim that they have controlled their senses etc., but the true fact is stated above in Bhagwad Geeta shloka and Yog shastra sutra discussed above. So public must beware of false saints.

Secondly, Rigved states that if a devotee performs daily hawan, timely listens to Vedas and bravely tries very hard to stop entering negative thoughts, bad views, greed, sensuality and anger then remaining task to destroy all vices etc., is done by God Himself. So, following the said Vedic advise, we must gain the blessings of almighty God. Here, it is very well clarified that God helps those who help themselves. I mean to say, you’ll have to do hard work to control anger as stated above and I hope you will get success.

As regards, coming to Yol, Ved mandir you all are always welcome here whenever, it suits you.
Again, my blessings to you all, my daughter.