Anonymous: Pranam Swamiji.With a deep heart, I request you to show me the right path and guide me. I have been a materialistic person all my life,always wanting to have good job, money, car and people around me. However,I got married 2yrs ago,against my wish.My father,who has a good name in his circle,is known for his knowledge,helpful nature and advises. However, he forced me to get married. Reason was he wanted to free himself of all the responsibilities. I have an elder sister. My mother and father, have always loved her more than me and after her marriage, my brother in law won their hearts and started controlling my life. I feel miserable.My father even kicked me out of the house,upon my brother in laws advise. Things become obvious when they visit us. My marriage is on the verge of breaking, as I loved someone else. I even told the girl and her
and my parents before marriage, but I was emotionally blackmailed to marry,with my mother, father, girl everyone threatening to commit suicide. Swamiji,my question is if God really exist, why dont they see my pain? I surrendered to my fate, for everyone’s happiness,and today, I’m myself not happy. I have even tried to commit suicide, but could not after thinking about my parents. I have now renounced all wordly desires. I feel nothing is mine,everything was God’s,and now He has taken everything from me. Most importantly my parents and relations, which I once believed, were mine. I feel like renouncing this world, my family, everything left with me, and surrender myself to God, and put my remaining life to help people, whom I dont even know. Swamiji, I doubt whether God would accept my surrender and renonciation, I still being a part of a family.Pls advise.I see either renonciation or death through suicide, further in my life.
Swami Ram Swarup: My blessings to you. As said in Rigveda mantra 10/135/1, 2, 3 we all have been blessed by God with human body to face the result of our previous lives’ deeds good or bad , in the shape of happiness and sorrows respectively. Whatever we’ll do here in present life shall be faced by us in future births. So, desire is baseless because based on the previous lives’ deeds. We all get the assets including wealth, good house, family, job etc. however, in the third mantra quoted above. It is stated that when the person who makes contact with learned acharya of Vedas and Yoga Philosophy then the influence of bad deeds of previous lives as well as those of present life get burnt and the aspirant/worshipper while discharging all moral duties following the Vedic path can thus fulfill his desires(pious) because at this point of time God Himself helps us. So, we should not worry about past but we should worry about present deeds that whether we are doing only pious deeds according to Vedas or not.
Yes, I’m also sad to listen your life’s instances. Yet, you are son of your parents and Vedas donot allow any son to misbehave with his parents at any cost, please. So, it is your moral duty to keep silent and be happy in all such circumstances. Your parents have given birth to you so always remain indebted to them. You do hard work to earn money independently and live independently but never break relations with your parents.
It is very clear from the Vedas and Bhagwad Geeta shloka 2/47 that everybody must discharge his duties and serve parents etc., selflessly. Yet, I know that when you’ll do services to parents and elders and adopt above quoted path then one day will come when your parents shall appreciate you. Not only parents but whole society shall do so.
God exists and to doubt God relates to sins. However as I’ve explained above, God has made His supreme laws in the Vedas which are unchangeable at any cost. So, try to please your parents first.
If somebody is not happy then it is due to one’s own karmas and deeds. please , try to be learned person and face happily the struggle of life.
Whether a person feels or not but hard reality is that whatever we possess in the world including our body actually belongs to God and is not our personal property. We are only souls and not body and reside in the body and at a proper time, under the law of God, we leave the body and the world at this juncture starts saying that such and such person has gone to heavenly abode, (death).
As regards death/suicide, I paste my article-
Suicide occurs in respect of those who indulge in illusion. Due to illusion, they are demoralised, lose patience. When the creation starts then at the beginning of every creation, God gives the knowledge of four Vedas to Rishis/human beings, to become learned by destroying the illusion. But those who due to one or the other reason, do not listen Vedas, they become unable to understand the motto of the human life and therefore the illusion effects them. As a result, they lose heart and commit suicide which is the greatest sin of human life. They even do not understand that due to their said act of sin, they will have to face more and more sorrows in the next birth. Even they are devoid of best human body which is meant to achieve salvation while doing all moral duties under the guidance of learned acharya of Vedic philosophy.
Now, I advise you to do the following to gain peace-
Hard working, devotion, dedication, honesty, services to the parents and elders to follow eternal religion mentioned in Vedas, practice of Ashtang Yoga, discharging moral duties to get progress in education, science simultaneously with spiritualism like, daily havan, to be in contact with the learned Acharya, to get his advice, are some of the pious deeds which make the future bright and obliterate the sorrows, problems, diseases, etc.
One must wake up early in the morning for early morning walk and exercises, must sit on meditation and chant holy name of God, must be away from any addiction and non-vegetarian. Such pious actions lead to long, happy life and bright future.
Please, start the day by chanting Gayatri mantra in the early morning sitting on suitable asan like Sukhasan, Siddhasan or Padmasan etc. concentrate on the point between two eyebrows which is called “Agyachakra”. The Gayatri mantra should be chanted along with its meaning both times. Also, please try to perform daily hawan even with Gayatri mantra. Then try to study any of my books daily and put up question if any.
After 15 days chant the Gayatri mantra only thrice thereafter do the name jaap of Almighty God-“Om”. The jaap must be done daily by heart and not orally.
The Gayatri mantra is as follows —
OM BHURBHUVAHA SWAHA TATA SAVITUR VARENYAM BHARGODEVASYA DHIMAHI DHIYO YO NHA PRACHODYAT
Meaning of Gayatri mantra stating each word is as follows. Its meaning is based on Vedas and Sanskrit grammar. Grammatical hints are in short please.
Om has three Hindi words. Aa, Uu AND Ma. Aa is meant for Aakaar from which three names of God are built,Viraat, Agni, and Vishwadi. From Uu = uukar from which Hiranyagarbha, Vaayu and Tejas names occur andMa = makaar from which Ishwar, Aditya and Praajyan aadi, holy names of God occur. Rigveda mantra 1/164/46 says God is one but His names are several. But here OM the holy name of God is only being explained.
VIRAAT= Viraat word is made from dhatu ‘Rajrideeptau’ i.e., manifest. Therefore Viraat means He who manifests the universe. As God manifests the universe, thus Viraat is the name of God. Rigveda mandal 10, sukta 129 states that like potter makes pot from clay, similarly God creates universe from non-alive matter prakriti. Prakriti is unseen matter. From unseen matter, the whole universe is created in the visible form. Science also says that matter is never destroyed but changes its form. Suppose a paper is burnt, paper changes its form into ashes. Then ashes are crushed and thrown in air. At this moment, the paper changed into ashes becomes invisible but was never destroyed. Similarly the whole universe at the time of finaldestruction is turned into prakriti i.e., into unseen form.
AGNI = From dhatu, ” ANCHU GATI POOJANAYOHO” the word “AGNI is made. Its meaning is — He who is a form of wisdom. “SARVAJAYEN” i.e., omniscient. I.e., knows even every atom of universe and even beyonduniverse too. He who is to be known, to be gained and worshippable. So agni is the name of God.
VISHWA = Vishwa word is made from dhatu, “VISHPRAVESHANE”. Its meaning is in whom the universe is entering or He is entering the universe. So being omnipresent, Vishwa is the name of God.
HIRANGARBHA = i.e., ” JYOTIRVAYIHIRANYAM”. Its meaning is, who is the base of all sun, etc., luminous lokas or He who is the living place of all luminous lokas.
VAAYU = from dhatu, “VA GATIGANDHANYOHO”, vaayu word is made. Its meaning is He who holds, gives life and destroys and the mightiest amongst all. So the name of God is Vaayu.
TEJ = from dhatu, “TIJA NISHANE”, the word Tej is made who is self made and self-enlighted and gives light to sun, moon, stars etc. God does not take light from anywhere else but gives light to sun, moon, stars, etc. so the unbroken, unobstructed/unproduced and eternal shape of light is Almighty God and not sun, moon etc. So the name of God is Tej.
ISHWAR = from dhatu, “ISH ASHWERIYE”, the word Ishwar is made. Its meaning is whose knowledge is thoughtful and true and has unlimited wealth, fortune and glory etc. Therefore the name of God is Ishwar. Here it is not out of place to mention that soul (man/woman) has limited qualities and are dependent whereas God is independent and has unlimited qualities that is why He is God.
ADITYA = from dhatu, “DO AVAKHANDANE”, Aditya word is made. Its meaning is the one who cannot be broken into pieces and thus cannot be destroyed. So God’s name is Aditya.
PRAJAYEN (PRAGYA) = from dhatu, “JYEN AVABODHANE”, Prajayen word is made whose wisdom is totally without any misunderstanding and thus he who knows every Manner and behavior of whole universe without misunderstanding. So God’s name is Prajayen. So here also it not out of place to mention that illusion can never attack on God and God is totally free from illusion.
BHUHU= “BHUHU ITI VAYEE PRANAHA” i.e., He who is the base of lives of universe, is most beloved, even more than Pran i.e., breath. So Bhuhu is the name of God.
BHUVAHA= “BHUVAHA ITI APANAHA” i.e., He who is totally free from any sorrow, and with whose contact, the soul removes his all sorrow. So the name of God is Bhuvaha.
SWAHA= i.e., “SWAHA ITI VYANAHE” who is omnipresent in the universe and is holding the same. So the name of God is Swaha.
SAVITUHU = He who creates the universe. So the name of God is Savituhu.
DEVSYA= who gives all pleasure/merriment, so the name of God is Dev.
VARENYAM = He who is the most supreme and acceptable. God is most supreme and acceptable for worship.
BHARGAHA = the purest entity (though God is formless, but finding no suitable English word of Sanskrit word, “SUDH SWARUPAM” the word entity has been used.)
TAT = i.e., the God i.e., of the purest entity.
DHIMAHI = i.e., we must hold (sort of meditation) because
YAHA = the God
NAHA = our,
DHIYAHA = mind (i.e., in our minds)
PRACHODYAT = by inspiration (fulfil the mind with wisdom)
“We meditate the God who is the base of lives’ of universe, totally free from any sorrow, omnipresent, creates the universe, gives all pleasure/merriment,most supreme and acceptable, purest entity; May the God enlighten our minds with wisdom by His inspiration”.
Here it is not out of place to mention that idea of a (one) Ved mantra is based on ideas of several Ved mantras. So in the above Gaytri mantra, there are three things —-
Bhuhu, Bhuvaha, Swaha, Savituhu, Bhargaha, Devsya are some qualities amongst unlimited qualities of God. These are called Stuti i.e., to say about God with His real qualities and not self made etc.
Secondly Dhimahi means meditation i.e., one should always sit in meditation and do hard and pious deeds for which he will have to study Vedas in full, while discharging moral duties towards family and nation.
Third and last is DHIYO YO NAHA PRACHODYAT. It is a prayer to God explanation of which is cited above.
In the above mantra we pray to God but mere prayer does not solve the purpose until we do hard work according to the prayer.