Anonymous: Namaste swamiji, Thank you so much for your response.. I got rid of that boy and followed the right path, but some months ago started liking other boy and got attracted. I hug and kissed him last week. Now I talk to him but decided not to touch each other. Though did not get in physical touch with him for a long time and did not do anything other than hug and kiss, still my soul asks me why did i do even this too. And this time level of guilty is so less that it is not even making me regret. What should I do to myself to stop my mind from getting diverted in these things? I have lost trust in myself that I’ll keep my words or promises to me in future. I took vow in presence of God, Guruji and Guru-maa and I did not keep it. What is there in future for me scares me. Where will I bear the sour fruits of my wrong doings. I am helpless. I don’t have courage to tell all this to my guru-maa face to face. What should I do? Pls throw light in my dark life which is becoming darker day by day due to my evil deeds. How should I punish myself and make myself understand that this path is leading me to the destruction. Pls help me, scold me, punish me, explain me. Regards
Swami Ram Swarup: Namaste beti. You are welcome, beti. I am very much pleased my daughter that you have now followed the right path. My several times blessings to you. As per the preach of Vedas, the opposite sex must not touch each other and must not give heart to each other before marriage. So, the said preach may be held in life. It will give more and more pleasure and save from the punishment awarded by God. So, please I hope you will stop doing all the bad deeds which you have done uptil now. When the sins are increased then level of guilt is decreased. So, please beware of sins. You must immediately follow the vedic law and therefore should destroy all the evil thinking in the mind and avoid forever such hateful sins. This is you only who can make firm decision to destroy and avoid the sins. I paste my article in this regard as under-
It is a great sin, please. Yajurved clearly states that a girl or a boy must never give her or his heart to opposite sex and must never even touch each other before marriage i.e., when marriage is fixed and performed completely thereafter only they can meet. So sins create sorrows. To maintain Brahmacharya is the best way to build life strong and to live a long, happy life. You are advised to read my book on Brahmacharya , if possible.
In Vedas, there is a fundamental law, both for boy and girl, that they should never give their heart to opposite sex till marriage. That is why, in the ancient time, marriage based on swayamvar were performed which avoided one sided love too. So please obey the parents otherwise life would be ruined. The human life blessed by God is meant to follow the Vedic path and to do pious deeds and not sins. As a father, I have advised you please.
RELATION TO OPPOSITE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE
According to the Vedas (Yajurveda mantra 8/10 refers) opposite sex must not surrender his/her mind (mann) to other till the completion of marriage. It is sad that nowadays India is forgetting her eternal culture of Vedas and hence the problem. I think that in the absence of knowledge of Vedas (spiritualism) nobody is able to understand the meaning of love. Vedas tell that love with soul to soul is only everlasting and produces extra-ordinary, permanent pleasure. On the other hand love based on physical charm creates problems for entire life.
Ishwar ne hamein yeh jeevan char steps mein poora karne ke liye diya hai. Pehla Brahmacharya ashram, jo janam se lekar kam se kam twenty five varsh tak rehta hai. Ismein ladka ladki poore saiyam se rahein aur opposite sex se koi contact na rakhein nahin to jeevan barbad hokar rahega aur aagey honey wali santanein bhi kamzor dimaag ki aur kam umar mein mrityu ko prapt hone wali hongee. Doosra- Grihasth ashram hai jo twenty five se fifty varsh tak chalta hai. Teesra ashram- vanprasth hai jo fifty se sevethy five varsh tak aur chautha ashram sanyas ka hai jo sevethy five years se hundred varsh tak ki aayu ka hota hai. Hamein ye bhi yaad rakhna hoga ki Yajurveda mein Ishwar kehta hai ki Twenty five varsh aur jab tak education pooree na ho tab tak shadi se pehle koi bhi ladka ladki ek doosre ko kabhi bhi dil na dein aur na hee touch karein. Ab yeh sochna hai ki ab hum Brahmacharya ashram mein koi paap karte hain to Ishwar ne hamein aagey chalkar bahut badi sazaa deikar dukh mein dhakelna hota hai.
STUDENT LOSING CONCENTRATION
Concentration is not made on mind, but mind has to be concentrated on particular point or subject etc. It requires practice of Yam, Niyam, Asan, Pranayaam, Pratyahar, Dharnna and Dhyan then one attains Samadhi. In this path, guidance of a spiritual master who knows Vedas and Ashtang Yoga philosophy is needed. Holy name jaap of God helps a lot. I have written a book on Yoga which can be sent on receipt of your postal address. However, personal guidance as stated is essential. It is a moral duty of a student to concentrate on hard study and to look after his health. Avoid bad society always concentrate on your Brahmacharya. Awake early in the morning and after bath-brush etc., do holy name jaap of God at least for fifteen minutes. Go for morning walk and light exercises daily. Take plenty of water i.e., at least 15-20 glasses in a day. Always respect your parents, elders and teachers. Must be soft spoken, avoid TV to see bad scenes, films etc. This all will help you to concentrate in your study. Whatever, you study and learn, try to write on rough book a lot without seeing books etc. Please refer to the book- “Brahamcharya-Dukh Nivarak Divya Manni”.
I also advise you to read my book Brahmacharya (in Hindi) worth Rs.100/-, excluding postal charges, if you desire. In Atharvaved, it is mentioned- Brahmacharyein Kanya Yuvaanum vindate Patim” i.e., the girl who maintain Brahmacharya in life, she only gets the young, handsome husband.
Anupam: गुरुजी प्रणाम।गुरुजी आज आपने किसी मंत्र को यज्ञ करते समय बोलने के साथ बताया कि यह प्रायश्चित मंत्र है।गुरुजी यह मंत्र कौन सा है।गुरुजी यज्ञ करते समय मे 5 स्वस्तिवाचन के शुरू के व 5 शान्तिकारणं के अंत के मंत्र भी बोलती हूँ।किसी आर्य समाजी ने बताया था।पर उच्चारण अभी बहुत शुद्ध नही है।बोला करू या नही।गुरुजी आजकल आप आसान सिखा रहे है पर केवल सुनकर पूरी तरह समझ नही आते क्या इनकी सीडी मिल जायेगी।
Swami Ram Swarup: Blessings beti. Prayashchit wala mantra, kitaab Yajyen Sarvashreshth Ishwar Pooja mein hai. Kitaab aapke paas hai hee, usmein dekh lein. Mantra kee shuruaat yeh hai- “Om Yadasya karmanno………….” Swastivachan ke mantron ke uchcharann shuru karenge, sunsunkar apna uchchrann shuddh kar lena. Beti, asan kee Cd nahin banaate, yahaan aakar seekh lena.
Anupam: गुरुजी प्रणाम।गुरुजी कल आपने प्रवचन के दौरान बताया की स्वाहा बोलने का बहुत महत्व है।व किसी मंत्र के अर्थ में बताया कि दूध पीने के बाद स्वाहा बोले,मूत्र विसर्जन के बाद स्वाहा बोले।गुरुजी टॉयलेट तो अपवित्र स्थल है वहाँ स्वाहा कहने के लिए ईश्वर ने क्यो कहा है।
Swami Ram Swarup: Blessings beti. Beti maine kai baar pravachan mein samjhaya hai ki Ishwar shuddh hai aur weh aisa adbhut tatva hai ki Sarvavyapak hone ke karann weh gattar mein, gandi naali mein bhishtha aadi mein hamare pet ki gandagi mein paseene mein yani har gandagi mein bhi aur phoolon kee khushbu aadi shuddh sthanon mein bhi hai parantu usko gandagi nahi chhooti jaise sooraj kee kiranein zameen par padee gandagi par bhi padtee hain parantu weh gandagi soooraj ke kirnon ko chhoo nahi paati arthat sooraj kee kirnon mein gandagi pravesh nahi kar patee. Parmeshwar to sooraj kee kiranon se bhi suksham hai. Prameshwar ka gunn hai ki weh sab mein hai parantu sabse alag hai. Usey koi sparsh nahi kar sakta.