R: Pranam My husband is purely covered by alcohol addiction. He didn’t want to go for job nor take any type of responsibility. I have a baby getting so depressed.
Swami Ram Swarup: My blessings to you, my daughter.
I’m sorry to listen about your husband. Such person actually cannot be advised to leave his bad habit which destroys entire family. Such person even has no worry about his children etc. If a wife of such person has strong, brave heart and takes the shelter of police etc., then the person can be forcefully admitted in centers where the addiction is cured otherwise there is no other alternative. My daughter, if you are educated then you can also seek job to nurse your baby. However, I would also advise that never go against your husband and do not quarrel because such action will break peace of your mind. Try to advise him in loving manner always. If possible, you may do daily hawan even with Gayatri mantra which is worship of God and God may solve your problem. In this regard, I paste my article below:-
HOW TO DO HAVAN
Please sit in the morning to perform havan. Havan must be in sunlight then it is more beneficial. Then half a bowl of fresh water with a tablespoon must be with you with small twigs especially of mango tree if possible, havan samagri, ghee, camphor and match box must be there with you. Please sit on sukh asan on four times folded blanket and blanket must be on mat.
Sukh asan i.e., sit on duly folded feet in comfortable position. Then first close your eyes and concentrate between two eyebrows and chant Gayatri mantra three times within heart and not by mouth. Then open your eyes.
Take one spoon of water in right palm. Chant this mantra, OM AMRITO UPASTRANMASI SWAHA and drink the water which you have put in your palm. Then again take the spoon of water in right palm then chant the next mantra, OM AMRITA APIDHANMASI SWAHA, and drink the water. Then again take the water in right palm and chant the mantra, OM SATYAM YASHAH SHRI MAYI SHRI SHRAYTAAM SWAHA, and drink the water. Then wash the right palm while sitting, with the same water kept in bowl.
Then put the twigs into havan kund with one piece of camphor and burn it. During this process chant the Gayatri mantra again and again till such time the fire is lighted sufficiently. Then chant the Gayatri mantra and at the last add the word Swaha and offer ghee with tablespoon, quantity equivalent to 4 to 5 drops. And if you are alone then also offer in fire pinch of havan samagri from your right hand’s finger and thumb avoiding forefinger. So this offering may be of 11 times, 21 times or 51 times as the time suits. It is the simplest way and I have not quoted the complete method of Yajna. The havan with Ved mantras are always offered as the best worship of God only please. Do havan daily and both times.
Anonymous: Ram ji ki nav par karane vale ka nam?
Swami Ram Swarup: Ramji kee naav par karane wale ka naam Kevat tha.
Bhagavan: Swamiji Namasthe, I would like to know one thing. Does our culture allow a husband to marry again with the permission of his first wife if he doesn’t get children through her? Because shastras state that unless a person begets a child he and his ancestors are not relieved? Please let me know.
Swami Ram Swarup: Namasteji. No, please. Our culture does not allow so.