Jyoti: Swami Ji ko mera paranam, I have noticed in two occasions I get teary eyed. Once in a Mata ka Jagaran and once in Bhagavd katha and in both times it was singing kirtan. What is the meaning on getting tears in your eyes when singing kirtan?
Swami Ram Swarup: The tears are due to your emotional attachment with the worship you have told in your question. According to Vedas, it is not authentic because tears also appear if our relative leaves us or our family member falls sick, etc. as we have attachment with them. The tear must be appear in the eyes if someone becomes ascetic and worship only one formless, almighty, omnipresent God.
Anonymous: Guruji, I have lost my family as my husband poisoned my daughter, mother in law and himself and died due to debt problems when I was not there at home. I am guilty that I would have properly asked him about his debts and helped him. When he was trying to say to me I just heard little about him saying about his debts as at that time he did not allow me to look after my mother who was sick and no one to take care of her and did not allow my daughter to my mother’s house. I did not know that he was having the idea of committing suicide if i would know I would not have allowed him to die. I feel guilty and i am so worried about my daughter’s death and I too want to die by committing suicide. My thinking is if I would have brought my child to my mother’s house she would not have died. Please help me and guide me guruji as I lost my family I was with my husband only but he did not take me with him at that time.
Swami Ram Swarup: The event took place in your family is really heart breaking. I’m sorry to read your e-mail. May God give peace, calm to departed souls and May God give you mental and physical power to bear and face the situation bravely.
In reality to commit suicide is a sin. Brave people face the situation but never commit suicide. However, whatever has been done has been done and cannot be undone. But it is very much clear that you are not guilty in this case because you went for your job as usual and could never think about the happenings which occurred.
In Atharvaved God preaches that one must be brave soul to face such situation and should not weep again and again. You should concentrate on your job and remaining family like parents and social activities.
To get peace I would like to advise you to do the followings under guidance of a learned acharya.
Hard working, devotion, dedication, honesty, services to the parents and elders to follow eternal religion mentioned in Vedas, practice of Ashtang Yoga, discharging moral duties to get progress in education, science simultaneously with spiritualism like, daily havan, to be in contact with the learned Acharya, to get his advice, are some of the pious deeds which make the future bright and obliterate the sorrows, problems, diseases, etc.
One must wake up early in the morning for early morning walk and exercises, must sit on meditation and chant holy name of God, must be away from any addiction and non-vegetarian. Such pious actions lead to long, happy life and bright future.
The Gayatri mantra is as follows —
OM BHURBHUVAHA SWAHA TATA SAVITUR VARENYAM BHARGODEVASYA
DHIMAHI DHIYO YO NAHA PRACHODYAT
Meaning of Gayatri mantra stating each word is as follows. Its meaning is based on Vedas and Sanskrit grammar. Grammatical hints are in short please.
Om has three Hindi words. Aa, Uu AND Ma. Aa is meant for Aakaar from which three names of God are built, Viraat, Agni, and Vishwadi. From Uu = uukar from which Hirannyagarbha, Vayu and Tejas names occur and Ma = makaar from which Ishwar, Aditya and Praajyan aadi, holy names of God occur. Rigveda mantra 1/164/46 says God is one but His names are several. But here OM the holy name of God is only being explained.
VIRAAT = Viraat word is made from dhatu ‘Rajrideeptau’ i.e., manifest. Therefore Viraat means He who manifests the universe. As God manifests the universe, thus Viraat is the name of God. Rigveda mandal 10, sukta 129 states that like potter makes pot from clay, similarly God creates universe from non-alive matter prakriti.
Prakriti is unseen matter. From unseen matter, the whole universe is created in the visible form. Science also says that matter is never destroyed but changes its form.
Suppose a paper is burnt, paper changes its form into ashes. Then ashes are crushed and thrown in air. At this moment, the paper changed into ashes becomes invisible but was never destroyed. Similarly the whole universe at the time of final destruction is turned into prakriti i.e., into unseen form.
AGNI = From dhatu, “ANCHU GATI POOJANAYOHO” the word “AGNI is made. Its meaning is: He who is a form of wisdom. “SARVAJAYEN” i.e., Omniscient. That is, knows each and every atom of universe and even beyond universe. He who is to be known, to be gained and is worshipful. So Agni is the name of God.
VISHWA = Vishwa word is made from dhatu, “VISHPRAVESHANE”. Its meaning is He in whom the universe is entering or He who is entering the universe. So being omnipresent, Vishwa is the name of God.
HIRANNYAGARBHA = i.e., ” JYOTIRVAYIHIRANYAM”. Its meaning is, who is the base of all sun, etc., luminous lokas or He who is the living place of all luminous lokas.
VAYU = from dhatu, “VA GATIGANDHANYOHO”, vayu word is made. Its meaning is He who holds, gives life and destroys and is the mightiest amongst all. So the name of God is Vayu.
TEJ = from dhatu, “TIJA NISHANE”, the word Tej is made meaning He who is self made and self-enlightened and gives light to sun, moon, stars etc. God does not take light from anywhere but gives light to sun, moon, stars, etc. so the unbroken, unobstructed/unproduced and eternal form of light is Almighty God and not sun, moon etc. So the name of God is Tej.
ISHWAR = from dhatu, “ISH ASHWERIYE”, the word Ishwar is made. Its meaning is whose knowledge is thoughtful and true and He who has unlimited wealth, fortune and glory etc. Therefore the name of God is Ishwar. Here it is not out of place to mention that soul (man/woman) has limited qualities and are dependent whereas God is independent and has unlimited qualities that is why He is God.
ADITYA = from dhatu, “DO AVAKHANDANE”, Aditya word is made. Its meaning is the one who cannot be broken into pieces and thus cannot be destroyed. So God’s name is Aditya.
PRAJAYEN (PRAGYA) = from dhatu, “JYEN AVABODHANE”, Prajayen word is made meaning whose wisdom is totally without any misunderstanding and thus he who knows every matter and behavior of whole universe without misunderstanding. So God’s name is Prajayen. So here also it is not out of place to mention that illusion can never attack on God and God is totally free from illusion.
BHUHU = “BHUHU ITI VAYEE PRANAHA” i.e., He who is the base of lives of universe, is most beloved, even more than Prann i.e., breath. So Bhuhu is the name of God.
BHUVAHA= “BHUVAHA ITI APANAHA” i.e., He who is totally free from any sorrow, and the soul removes his own all sorrows after coming in contact with Him. So the name of God is Bhuvaha.
SWAHA = i.e., “SWAHA ITI VYANAHE” who is omnipresent in the universe and is holding the same. So the name of God is Swaha.
SAVITUHU = He who creates the universe. So the name of God is Savituhu.
DEVSYA= who gives all pleasure/merriment, so the name of God is Dev.
VARENNYAM = He who is the most supreme and acceptable. God is most supreme and acceptable for worship.
BHARGAHA = the purest entity (though God is formless, but finding no suitable English word of Sanskrit word, “SHUDH SWARUPAM” the word entity has been used.)
TAT = i.e., the God i.e., of the purest entity.
DHIMAHI = i.e., we must hold (sort of meditation) because
YAHA = the God
NAHA = our,
DHIYAHA = mind(i.e., in our minds)
PRACHODYAT = by inspiration (fulfil the mind with wisdom)
“We meditate the God who is the base of lives’ of universe, totally free from any sorrow, omnipresent, creates the universe, gives all pleasure/merriment, most supreme and acceptable, purest entity; May the God enlighten our minds with wisdom by His inspiration”.
Here it is not out of place to mention that idea of a (one) Ved mantra is based on ideas of several Ved mantras. So in the above Gayatri mantra, there are three things —-
Bhuhu, Bhuvaha, Swaha, Savituhu, Bhargaha, Devsya are some qualities amongst unlimited qualities of God. These are called Stuti i.e., to say about God with His real qualities and not self made etc.
Secondly Dhimahi means meditation i.e., one should always sit in meditation and do hard and pious deeds for which he will have to study Vedas in full, while discharging moral duties towards family and nation.
Third and last is DHIYO YO NAHA PRACHODYAT. It is a prayer to God explanation of which is cited above.
HOW TO DO HAVAN
Please sit in the morning to perform havan. Havan must be in sunlight then it is more beneficial. Then half a bowl of fresh water with a tablespoon must be with you with small twigs especially of mango tree if possible, havan samagri, ghee, camphor and match box must be there with you. Please sit on sukh asan on four times folded blanket and blanket must be on mat.
Sukh asan i.e., sit on duly folded feet in comfortable position. Then first close your eyes and concentrate between two eyebrows and chant Gayatri mantra three times within heart and not by mouth. Then open your eyes.
Take one spoon of water in right palm. Chant this mantra, OM AMRITO UPASTRANMASI SWAHA and drink the water which you have put in your palm. Then again take the spoon of water in right palm then chant the next mantra, OM AMRITA APIDHANMASI SWAHA, and drink the water. Then again take the water in right palm and chant the mantra, OM SATYAM YASHAH SHRI MAYI SHRI SHRAYTAAM SWAHA, and drink the water. Then wash the right palm while sitting, with the same water kept in bowl.
Then put the twigs into havan kund with one piece of camphor and burn it. During this process chant the Gayatri mantra again and again till such time the fire is lighted sufficiently. Then chant the Gayatri mantra and at the last add the word Swaha and offer ghee with tablespoon, quantity equivalent to 4 to 5 drops. And if you are alone then also offer in fire pinch of havan samagri from your right hand’s finger and thumb avoiding forefinger. So this offering may be of 11 times, 21 times or 51 times as the time suits. It is the simplest way and I have not quoted the complete method of Yajna. The havan with Ved mantras are always offered as the best worship of God only please. Do havan daily and both times.
In the end of hawan, please pray to God to fulfill your desires. I hope God will sure listen to you.
PROCEDURE OF CHANTING
Please, start the day by chanting Gayatri mantra in the early morning sitting on suitable asan like Sukhasan, Siddhasan or Padmasan etc. concentrate on the point between two eyebrows which is called “Agyachakra”. The Gayatri mantra should be chanted along with its meaning both times. Also, please try to perform daily hawan even with Gayatri mantra. Then try to study any of my books daily and put up question if any.
After 15 days chant the Gayatri mantra only thrice thereafter do the name jaap of Almighty God-“Om”. The jaap must be done daily by heart and not orally.
I also paste my article for your knowledge:-
Suicide occurs in respect of those who indulge in illusion. Due to illusion, they are demoralised, lose patience. When the creation starts then at the beginning of every creation, God gives the knowledge of four Vedas to Rishis/human beings, to become learned by destroying the illusion. But those who due to one or the other reason, do not listen Vedas, they become unable to understand the motto of the human life and therefore the illusion effects them. As a result, they lose heart and commit suicide which is the greatest sin of human life. They even do not understand that due to their said act of sin, they will have to face more and more sorrows in the next birth. Even they are devoid of best human body which is meant to achieve salvation while doing all moral duties under the guidance of learned acharya of Vedic philosophy.
Yajurved mantra 7/48 ke anusaar hum jeevatmayein manushya kee yoni mein aakar paap athwa punya karma karne ke liye poornataha azad hain parantu hamare kiye hue karmon ka phal kramshaha dukh evam sukh ke roop mein Parmeshwar deta hai. Artaht karmaphal hamare haath mein nahin hai. Doosra Rigved mantra 10/135/1,2,3 ka bhaav hai ki Parmeshwar nein hamein manushya ka shareer pichhley janamon mein kiye hue paap aur punnya karma ka phal dukh aur sukh ke roop mein bhogne ke liye diya hai aur ab jo paap aur punnya karma kareingey uska phal agley janamon mein bhogeingey. Bhaav yeh hai ki atmahatya ek mahapaap hai isliye jo atmahatya roop paap karta hai, weh bhi janam lekar avashya is paap ko mahadukh ke roop mein bhogega hee kyunki yeh Ishwar ka banaya hua srishtee ka niyam hai. Aur woh janam Rigved mantra 10/51/3 ke anusaar manushya ke shareer ka nahin hoga apitu kutta, billi, gadha, ghoda, saanp, bichchhu athwa keet patang ka shareer wala hoga.
Asal mein to Ishwar nein hamein manushya janam vedic sadhna karke Moksha prapti ke liye diya hai yadi hum vishya-vikaron mein padkar shareerik aur mansik pareshaniyon ka khud shikaar ho jaatey hain aur yeh Ishwar kee dein, jo manav shareer hai, uska dharamyukta istemaal na karke atmahatya jaisa paap karma karte hain to iska matlab yeh hua ki hamne Ishwar kee yeh sundar den thukra dee aur Ishwar ko naraaz kiya. Issey to, karza aur pareshaniyon mein bhi zinda rehney wala Mirza Galib hee achchha tha, jo keh gaya:-
‘Mujhe kya bura tha marna, Gar ek baar hota.’
Yahaan Galib keh raha hain ki Pareshaniyon se ghabra kar koi marega to iska matlab yeh thodi hai ki weh pareshaniyon se azad ho gaya. Weh aur paapon ke saath is mahapaap ko bhi bhogega. Satya yeh hai ki hum sansari vastuyon aur maya mein phans jaatey hain, jo ki Raj, tam aur satva gunn se banee hotee hain aur sadaa vishaye vikari aur dukh dene walee hain. Inka istemaal to vedic bhakti karne ke sath-sath tyagpoorvak kiya jaata hai tab yeh vastu sukh detee hain anyatha nahin detee hain, is vishya mein main apna ek article paste kar raha hoon.
Do not weep
Vedas prohibit to weep and to mourn for him because Vedas tell that if a person would continue mourning and weeping for the departed soul, he will inturn minimize his life span as well.